The crimes are awful – the gang rape in India, the gang rape in Steubenville, Ohio.
The boys don’t seem to be getting it. But girls and women around the planet sure are getting it. We see that the same old language is still in use – she asked for it, he couldn’t help it, she shouldn’t have gotten drunk, she should have just stayed home, etc, etc, etc.
In Steubenville, they’re saying she just did it to get the football team in trouble! She was unconscious during the rapes, at least according to the videos. They carried her around by her wrists and legs, like a slaughtered animal. She didn’t do anything. They chose to have sex with an unconscious non responsive human. And it’s her fault?
In India, it’s that women lead men on, and soil the honor of the whole family.
You know, if men are just out of control, and just have to have sex without thinking – maybe they should not be in charge of decision making. Maybe they should just go off into the shadows and drink and gamble and see if they can find someone to sleep with them. Oh, wait – a lot of them do that already. While the women take care of the kids and earn the money and keep the family together.
What this has told us as women is that things have not changed near as much as we’d like to believe that have. What it tells me, in addition, is that men are so wounded by not being in charge any more that many are full of rage, and want to erase women from the stage. This is to be expected in the middle of our current paradigm shift.
I salute the people – the women and men – in India and in Steubenville who are standing up to this rage and fear and violence.